The unmistakable fault lines of a cultural earthquake are already opening around us.
Don’t you just want to cover your kid’s ears and eyes some days?
There is solid ground. Will you show your kid how to find it?
For about 10 years, I’ve been talking to parents, and here’s what I’ve heard:
Over and over I heard these questions:
As you face these concerns, your biggest challenges are likely to involve two areas: the internet and the culture.
The internet offers immediate gratification. The world is at your fingertips. Attention spans shrink as users jump from email to text to tweet to video. It is no exaggeration to say that users are sucked into the world of the internet. Maybe you already recognize how it is changing you. (According to research by Boston Medical Center, 73 percent of parents used a mobile device continuously while dining out.)
What is the internet doing to your kid? You may have parental controls and/or rules in place, but, face it, kids are going to find a way to the big online world. (An article in The Atlantic Monthly not long ago described this. The title was “I Didn’t Expect to Find Pornography in My Nine-Year-Old’s Web History.”)
In a recent study, researchers found that each hour of screen time—whether it be spent on social media, watching television, or generally on the internet—increases the severity of depressive symptoms like loneliness, sadness, or hopelessness in teens.
A psychologist studying these effects on kids says, “Persuasive technology’s use of digital media to target children, deploying the weapon of psychological manipulation at just the right moment, is what makes it so powerful. These design techniques provide tech corporations a window into kids’ hearts and minds to measure their particular vulnerabilities, which can then be used to control their behavior as consumers.”
In an interview, former Facebook president Sean Parker said that Facebook exploits “vulnerability in human psychology” and remarked, “God only knows what it’s doing to our children’s brains.”
That brings us to the other big challenge.
Partly because of the internet and other societal changes, topics that were rarely mentioned around kids have become unavoidable. (Like I said, some days don’t you just want to cover your kid’s ears and eyes when one of those topics comes up on TV?)
Kids are being forced to grow up fast. Your kid faces issues that, even a few years ago, kids rarely had to deal with. This pace of change has accelerated, and the pressure your kid faces has increased. You probably didn’t face these issues as a kid. Some of these have blown up just in the past year or so. And who knows what will come up next month, next year.
Beliefs and values that held the old culture in place seem to be slipping away. You may agree or disagree with the changes, but there is no doubt that the issues that face your child are coming fast and furiously.
Are you on the defensive with your kid, just trying to get in a few words between texts and tweets? You may wonder how it is that your little boy or little girl has suddenly been sucked into a world over which you seem to have little influence and control.
You are the answer.
There is something you can control. Your example and your words can make the difference.
What you’ve read in this book can give you a powerful start. You know how beliefs and frames can set your kid up for an amazing life. You know how to start teaching the morals, values, and character that will protect and prepare him or her.
You know that you are the answer. But you probably can’t be the answer doing it like you learned from your parents. What your parents did likely won’t work now. Again, things have changed.
The culture and the internet have become much more intrusive and aggressive. And that means you need to step up your game—maybe even be wildly proactive. (Your kid is worth it, right?)
Because I can help.
I don’t come from the ranks of parenting experts. I won’t tell you to do all the same things parents have been told for years. I come at this from a completely different direction.
My expertise is in how beliefs develop and how to use language to influence and direct beliefs. I’ve been an executive coach for 30 years. I’ve done one-on-one coaching with CEOs and Managing Directors of multinational companies from 14 countries on four continents. I meet with these executives over the course of a year and help them develop beliefs that give them successful business and personal lives.
These clients are accomplished and high-performing executives. And yet almost all were beset by some belief that they had developed as a child, and they were still struggling with it. I asked myself, what if someone could help kids develop great beliefs while they are still young?
One day, I mentioned my concerns to a friend, a father of three, and he asked, what would it take for you to teach parents the skills you’ve been teaching executives? And he said parents can only help their kids if they have the tools.
His question rocked me. Who was I to do that? I’m not even a parent. But when I looked around and saw what was happening to kids and the challenges of being a parent today, I was concerned. So, I started writing and teaching.
I want parents to have the same powerful edge that these language and belief tools and skills have given my executive clients. I’m not going to tell you what to believe. I only want you to get clear on what you believe and have the tools and skills to pass those beliefs on to your kids.
And now there is a way that you can learn these skills on an ongoing basis.
I designed a program called BeliefAbility™ Parenting to show you how to do these things:
Each week, you’ll get a new module. These are short, to the point, and designed for you to put into action instantly. (Seriously, your kids aren’t getting any younger.)
Here’s what each month looks like:
Week 1 – You get the BeliefAbility™ module. Learn about how beliefs work, how they affect you and your child, and how you can change them.
Week 2 – You get the Parenting with Language Power module. Just as I have taught executives around the world how to use their words to get great results, I’ll show you language patterns—sentence templates you can use to inspire, instruct, and instill great beliefs in your kid.
Week 3 – You get the Teach Kids Character module. This week you’ll get language patterns, resources, and ideas about how to build specific character traits in your kid. We’ll cover one a month, including traits like honesty, resilience, optimism, discipline, and so on.
Week 4 – We finish the month with The Extra Edge. Each month I’ll pass on a bit of the best of what I’ve learned in over 30 years of one-on-one coaching. It might be a relationship tip, a mindset shift, or an influence strategy—all to make sure you have The Extra Edge for yourself and for your kid.
You are your child’s best hope.
Your child entered the world looking to you for everything. Maybe you’ve come to take that influence for granted, or maybe you forgot you had it. This program shows you how to strengthen that bond and build a conversation that can last a lifetime.
The investment for BeliefAbility™ Parenting is about the cost of a cup of gas station coffee a day. If you go to the website, you’ll see that the normal charge is $49 a month.
But because you purchased Teach Kids Character in an Election Year, I know you are committed to raising your child right. So, for a limited time you can get a Charter Membership to BeliefAbility™ Parenting for just $29 a month. That rate will remain the same as long as you remain a member.
Click here to get started now!
Not long after I began teaching this stuff, I met a father at a social event. He and his wife had each attended a well-known Christian college and his wife was on staff at his church. When he asked what I was doing with parents, I told him. He shook his head and said, “I’ve got three kids—two in collage and one graduated. I wish someone had taught me this when my kids were little. I lie awake at night wondering whether I gave them what they need.”
If all that BeliefAbility™ Parenting did was to help you to sleep at night knowing you’d given your kid the right stuff, wouldn’t that be worth it?
You are your child’s best hope when it comes to being protected now and prepared for the future. Join me in the BeliefAbility™ Parenting program.
Remember, each month you’ll get these modules:
Oh, and when you join now, I’ll send you a special report entitled, “How to Get into Your Kid’s Head, (And What to Do When You Get There!)” It’s just one of the bonuses I’ll send along during your membership.
Here’s what people have said about my teaching:
“Your program is remarkable—your website, your character, your personality, your passion as a human being comes through. I’m so excited that you are going to be helping parents like me and their children live better lives together.” - Joel Bauer
“If you want to help your children, Rich is the expert. He has the skills, and he has the heart.”
- Lina Sing
Right now, you can get a Charter Membership to BeliefAbility™ Parenting for just $29 a month. Of course, you can discontinue your membership at any time, like when your kid goes off to college. For now, get the kind of continuing help that proactive parents can use to make a lifetime of difference for their kids.
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